“Lust after” or “affair after” is a common term that many couples use when they decide to commit to the relationship. When you hear the term, it may conjure up images of young women in bikinis, walking along the beach at night with a gorgeous man who may be their dream guy. But the reality is much different than that.
Whatis is Lust After?
“Lust after” is often used as a description of what women do in order to satisfy their lovers. However, this description is only half true and often puts the blame on the men rather than placing the responsibility on both parties. As a therapist who specializes in female sexual attraction and desire, I am often asked what women do that cause lust after situations.
My response is that there are many factors that come together and determine whether or not a couple will have an intense sexual attraction towards one another, but there are also things that women can do to prevent this from happening at all.
For example, there are a number of factors that can lead to a woman being in lust or sexual attraction, including her general health, physical attractiveness, intellectual ability, personality, social life and more. All of these play a role in the way a woman experiences sexual desire and often, these factors are also present in the first stages of lust. Therefore, when a couple decides to have sexual intercourse, they should make sure that these factors are all healthy and fulfilling. They can increase the level of their sexual desire and their intimacy will likely increase as well. If a couple is having issues finding this together, then it may be time for an online therapy session.